Friday, July 9, 2010

Older Child Adoption

Back at the beginning of our first Hope Journey program, I talked about how older child adoption is not for everyone, and that's definitely true. Just like adoption is not for everyone. There are some things you just have to be willing to accept. You won't get to see their first steps or hear their first words. But you will get to see their first steps on American soil and hear their first English words. Older child adoption has different kinds of firsts. Like the first time they call you Mom or Dad or say "I love you." Or perhaps the first time they tell you something about their life in China. There are lots of firsts that I hear families rejoice. But you also have to be prepared for the possibility that it might not be an easy transition. For some, it might take a very long time for them to say those words you so want to hear. After all, when you adopt a child, you're adopting a fully formed personality in many cases. You will have to adapt to them, just like they have to adapt to you. So it's true, older child adoption is not for everyone. But many families are finding wonderful matches in older children! So if your heart is open, please consider it. Do your research and prepare for the worst and hope for the best. There are great resources to turn to about older child adoption. Rainbowkids has great articles about it:
as does No Hands But Ours:

I know there are some of you out there reading this blog, so please help spread the word about these precious children--they need your help to find their forever families! They are waiting too long.

1 comment:

  1. Hi Marci, I think you're doing a great job advocating for these kids. I think continuing comments on each of the kids with your impressions is so helpful. I also wonder if some closer face shots would allow potential parents to make a connection when they can really see a child's eyes and smiles. I think the boys are so beautiful as well as the girls. Keep up the good work and thank you. Kathy