Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Urgent Need--George!!!

George desperately wants a family and since he is 13 he desperately needs one who will work quickly for him. He is a sweet boy who has seen his friends get adopted and he enjoys practicing his English. As you can see from his picture, he has quite a lovely idea of what a home and family might be like. Let's help him find a family of his own.

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Urgent Need---Clarke!

We need all of your help to find Clarke a family. CCAA is concerned because he is already 13 years old. If a family does not complete the adoption in Guangdong Province before he reaches 14 years old, he will lose the opportunity to be adopted. Clarke is a boy who can be seen having a good time in all of the photos taken of him.

As stated in an earlier post, he enjoys doing body building poses, although he is quite skinny:-) He has a genuine smile, a friendly personality and is optimistic, outgoing and polite. He is well behaved at school and gets along well with others. Doesn't this sound like a boy who would make parents proud? Please take Clarke's story to everyone you know....present him at your place of worship, community gatherings or events. Send an email out to those you know with a link to this blog, post Clarke's story on your facebook page, etc.... Let's all work together to find that family that is meant to be Clarke's! He believes there is a family out there for him, and so do I! With your help, we can find that family that is connected through the red thread. Please give my email to anyone interested:


Thursday, September 24, 2009

Why Adopt an Older child?

In China when a child turns 14 they are no longer eligible for adoption. There are so many “stories” about what happens to these children when they age out but one thing we all know for sure is that life without a family can be very difficult even for an adult. When you adopt an older child there will be no diapers, no daycare, no stroller and no crib. Older children will be able to dress themselves, bath themselves, feed themselves, and they probably will be able to tell you what they like and what they don’t like - even if they don’t speak English yet. Some of these children may have suffered from abuse or neglect, some may have had loving care givers and others may have come from foster homes. None of them would be available for adoption if they didn’t need a family. Most older children understand this and desperately want a family. They know that the orphanage will not allow them to stay past a certain age or that their foster families can no longer care for them. This is why they will understand and appreciate what you have done for them when you adopt them. Most older children will be grateful for the opportunity to have a family and a permanent home. Many will be grateful just for the opportunity to go to school. If adopted, children with medical needs will receive life altering medical attention and support that they would not have had access to in China.

Our family has adopted five children from China. Our first daughter was adopted through the NSN program when she was 3 years old. That was “old” according to the other families in our group. Our second daughter also adopted through the NSN program was 6 years old and again according to the other families in our group that was really old. Our third adoption was a huge leap of faith, a 13 year old waiting child. We saw her referral information in early January and we had to complete the entire adoption process in less than four months when she would turn 14 years old. Quite honestly I was so focused on the process/paper chase that I could not stress over every little thing that would happen when she came home. We did talk to the school, we did line up people who could translate for us and we purchased tools to help her learn English (Rosetta stone, dictionary, etc.). While we waited we sent our daughter letters, pictures and care packages to introduce our family to her. She even wrote us a very nice letter! This child has truly exceeded our expectations! She is an extraordinary person, kind, generous, intelligent, mature and optimistic. Today after 3.5 years she is a 17 year old junior in high school and doing very well with hopes of attending college when she graduates. Because her adoption was such a rewarding experience for our family, and we learned so much about the process of bringing an older child into our family, we went on to adopt 2 more older children (2 eleven year old daughters) and we have no regrets.

We are in no way implying that adopting older children is easy, it does require patience and perseverance. Every child is different and each child will handle their transition to your family and their new life differently. Some children will be well prepared and others will not be prepared at all. Overcoming the language/communication hurdle will be your first challenge. However this will improve quickly because your child will learn a little English everyday and your family will learn to communicate more with less language everyday. One of the questions we hear most often is what about school? All our girls go to public school and they all entered school right away, within weeks of arriving home from China. Most older children want to go to school as soon as possible. School gives their lives structure, it gives you and your child a break from each other, and it helps to develop their English language skills. Socializing with other children is a great incentive to learn English.

In the beginning the feeling will be awkward because essentially you are inviting a complete stranger into your family and your child is trying to be a part of a family they don’t know or understand. However, as you get to know your child and your child gets to know their new family the awkwardness will disappear and finally a day will come when you no longer remember your family without this child. As our family encourages others to adopt older children we know and understand what it feels like. We know that it is scary proposition and that it feels like you are taking a huge risk, but we also know that we have received so much for taking those risks that others weren’t willing to take. Some people without the experience of adopting older children may try to discourage you but I recommend that you do your research. Read books, read current articles, join yahoo groups, and visit family blogs. Most parents that have adopted older children are very willing to share their experience with you to help other older children find families. If you are considering adopting an older do your research, go into it with your eyes wide open and you will not be disappointed.

A Few Simple Words of Wisdom

Good – Watching older children experience “firsts” like holidays, family vacations, the beach, birthday celebrations, new clothes, new shoes, and making their own choices.

Biggest Adjustments – Food is probably the most difficult adjustment but they will slowly get used to American food. In the beginning they can eat Chinese take out and Ramen noodles. Learning English and learning American culture can take time, in the mean time watch out for conflicts or hurt feelings that develop from misunderstandings. Riding in a car can cause motion sickness for someone who might never or rarely have ridden in a car. The motion sickness will disappear as the child becomes accustomed to riding in a car.

Hardest Adjustments - Learning their place in the family and working out differences and conflicts with other family members. Again watch out for conflicts and hurt feelings caused by misunderstandings. Many times we find out that there really is no conflict just a misunderstanding. In other words everyone is in agreement, they just don’t know it. Learning age appropriate social protocol can be challenging too. Between the cultural differences and the child’s experience in China they may need a little extra coaching from you.

Adopting out of Birth Order – Often when a family adopts an older child it will be an out of birth order adoption. We have done it and it does present some unique challenges but in our opinion it is manageable. For example sometimes the older child may be jealous of the younger child because they were in the family first or the younger child may believe they can tell the older child what to do. Most 13 year olds will not appreciate a 6 year old ordering them around, but again with some coaching conflicts can be worked out.

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

See Ruth Beyond the Scar

Ruth has a winning smile that transcends her facial scar. Beyond that, she won my heart because she was simply a lovely young lady of 11. I’m drawn to people who appear very gentle, polite and dignified. She seemed to possess all those attributes and more. I also liked how attentively she drew – she knows how to focus and at the same time was more than happy to dance around in her hula skirt. She deserves her chance to shine – she just needs a family to help her achieve all that she is capable of doing. - Sandra

Some wear their scars on the inside, others on the outside. There must be someone who can help Ruth see how beautiful she is, both inside and out? Some might not even notice her scar. No one is looking at Ruth's file right there anyone who will consider her?

Friday, September 18, 2009

Wendy, A Girl with Attitude

Wendy is a bright girl with attitude. Her pictures show a confident girl, not afraid to pose for the camera at any opportunity. She has short hair, and her nannies say she refuses to have long hair. At the age of 5 she went to a foster family and learned to write Chinese characters and do addition and subtraction. She is a persistent little girl. Her pictures show a popular little girl, surrounded by many friends. She was even comfortable posting close with Sandra for a picture.

Thursday, September 17, 2009

Scotty and Quinn

Scotty and Quinn are very good friends. They hold each other’s hands and play together. You can spot them giggling and whispering. They even look alike. If you are thinking about adopting two at the same time, let us know.

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Sherry and Lin, Sweet Friends

Sherry and Lin are like sister and brother. Lin is a deaf child. Sherry understands him and helps translate simple sign language to Lin. When Lin was waiting to be interviewed, Sherry walked in, put the lei on Lin and pulled him close to her. She is like an older sister taking care of her younger brother.

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

They Are Waiting For You

Every day Fei, Sandra and I talk about these children and wonder how we can present these kids so that you can see what we see in them? How can we show you what they have shown us to open our hearts to them and work so hard to find them families? Well, as you can see, we haven't figured that out yet, but we keep trying! It breaks our hearts daily that there are so many children who are not being considered for adoption. How can we give these kids the chance at families of their own, if we can't adequately present who they really are? How can we do this without pictures? Well, I ask you this....wouldn't you want this kind of fun and spirit in your home and family? Families that we know that we never would have thought would have considered an older child are coming forward and doing so--this is great! But where are the families who will consider the boys? Where are the families that will consider the kids who may age out of the chance at adoption? Where are the families who have adopted older children successfully and want to share their stories? These kids are waiting for you.....

Monday, September 14, 2009

JANE....This precious child must have a family!

I know that I've mentioned Jane before as well, but I continue to be quite shocked that no one is reviewing her file. This girl caught my attention right away as I looked through pictures of the event. She is a clever girl--she put her Hawaiian lei on her head, wearing it as a crown. She put the markers on her fingertips and posed for a picture, like a girl with an olive on each finger:-) She is successful at sports in school, especially short distance running and has neat handwriting, according to her teachers. She likes to help take care of younger children, as well as children with disabilities. Is there a family out there who would make Jane their own and give her some siblings? Please contact me right away! Jane is almost 12 years old and would be a wonderful addition to the right family.

Friday, September 11, 2009

You Can Help, Too!

A few of our clients are reaching out to their communities about these children. Several families have taken the opportunity to spread the word about these kiddos by talking to their Church members about this unique program and the kids awaiting their families. If you're following this blog, or even just dropping in for a peek, you, too can reach out and help spread the word about these children. We have so many children waiting to find their families--we need all of your help to reach far and wide to find the family who is right for each child. If you believe in the red thread, please help us find those connections. This weekend, talk to 10 people or more about these children. Or, pick one child that you especially feel a connection to, and make it your mission to find a family for that child. If you need tips on how to do this, feel free to contact me. You can help change lives and help fulfill dreams!


Nate is a five-year-old boy who loves to sing and enjoys performing. He has good tempo. He was given a cute nickname and is delighted to give hugs when asked. He is a little shy but has a big heart and is well liked by his teachers and classmates. He helps the children with disabilities to put on their coats and shoes. His limp does not stop him from doing anything. He participates in a Half The Sky educational program and is doing well.
Didn’t he draw a lovely picture of a colorful fish? Nate could be seen during the Hope Journey program with his buddy, Scotty, as well as cuddling with Sandra in a picture or two. Please help us find Nate's forever family!

Thursday, September 10, 2009


Michael is a nine-year-old boy with hand and feet deformities. He is the epitome of a young man who is both totally cool and sweet in the same moment. He is from the Shenzhen orphange in Guangdong Province and appears to be a well adjusted boy. He has been living in an extended family-like foster family situation that seems to have encouraged a healthy sense of self without any attitude. I was taken with his ability to be comfortable showing off his moon walk and robot moves for his talent presentation. Clearly he was having fun, seemed unself-conscious and in total command of his body. While his deformities are visible, they didn't detract from his ability to fully engage in all of the activities of the day. Nor did it detract from his winsome personality.


Check out the smiley faces on his apple trees in the picture he drew:-) Could Michael be the child you've been waiting for to complete your family? Contact Marci for more pictures and details:


View ASIA's Waiting Children Here:

ASIA maintains a password-protected website with pictures and information about our waiting children. You can view our Hope Journey and other waiting children here:
Who knows, you may find the child that's meant to be yours!

If you do not have the password, please email the following information to Marci ( ) and she will gladly share it with you. Then if you wish to see a child's complete file, just let Marci know:


Mailing Address:


Phone Number:

E-Mail Address:

Your ages:

Are you married? If so, what was the date of your marriage?

Have you or your spouse been divorced? If so, how many times?

Annual Income:

Do your net assets reach $80,000 or more?

What are you and your spouse’s highest levels of education?

Do you or your spouse have a criminal record?

What are you and your spouse’s BMI:

Do you or your spouse have any health conditions?

Number of children in your home:
How long have you had them?

Do you have a home study completed or in process?

Is your dossier in another country?
If so, why do you want to view ASIA’s waiting children?

How did you hear about ASIA?

State that you “agree” or “disagree” to the following statement:

“I recognize that ASIA regards the information about children in its Waiting Child program to be private and confidential. If I am granted access to this information, I agree that I will only use this information personally in my own quest to adopt a child with special needs. I will not give the password and access information to anyone. I will not share or disseminate (including cut and paste) any of the information contained on the site.”

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

The Strength of One

One of the most memorable conversations I had on this trip was with a 19 year old girl who spent her whole life in Guangzhou SWI.

For a long time, she thought that life was hopeless. Her best friend was adopted around 11 yrs old. “They separated us, she was the only person I trusted, I relied on, and the only person in the whole world I cared about…My world turned upside down, I had nothing.” After her best friend left, she stopped talking, stopped smiling and her life stopped right there. It took her years to recover. She put all of her energy into her school. Now she is going to go to college and she reconnects with her best friend in the US. They talk to each other often via Skype. Each of them has their own life. But the bond they had never went away.

I asked her “Since you have lived there for 19 years, you must have very close relationships with the caregivers?” “Not really. They do take care of us when we are young. But we become very independent at an early age.” The life in the orphanage was hard. She used to take care of the older mean girls too. “The older girls always took advantage of me. I had to wash their clothes, get hot water for them, do their laundry and share my allowance with them.” Until director Xu came on board. Then life changed. They used to share a room with 12 people with only one fan in the hot summer days; now only 4 people in the room and they have air conditioning. “Director Xu always takes his time to talk to us. He asks us how’s school and life? He encourages us to talk to him whenever we feel like talking. He is such a great man!”

We gave her a ride and dropped her at the bus station. Watching her walking away, her short and pretty frame appeared stronger than ever. What she has been through made her a strong person, stronger than anybody I have ever known.

These kids are survivors. Their life has made them strong. Think of what potential they could have if given the chance to thrive with the love and resources a family can provide.

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Where is Shirley's Family?

I know I've written about Shirley twice already, but I have to do it again. I have to believe there is a family out there for this sweet girl. Look at the picture she drew of herself with caucasian parents:

She knows this may be her last chance to find a family because of her age. Shirley is so sweet and mature that she is able to be supportive and gracious with her friends who find families while she has not. Shirley is an outstanding student and has won high marks for the last three years in school. She loves reading and spending time in the library. She also plays the flute and enjoys performing. She has been living with a foster family for 2 years, so she knows about family. She respects her elders and helps the younger children. She is well liked and praised by her teachers and foster parents. Certainly there is a family out there looking for a child like Shirley to call their own?
Are you part of an older child adoption listserv? Are you part of a church or other community that might have members interested in adopting? If you are and you would like to help these precious children find homes, please tell everyone you know about these children waiting in China for their families. You just might change the life of one of these children by finding their forever family! Help us spread the word far and wide!
Thank you,

Thursday, September 3, 2009

Heartfelt Plea

I'm writing a heartfelt plea for all of the older children in our Hope Journey Program. While it looks like we have found families for a couple more children, none of the older children in danger of aging out have found families yet. I want to remind you about these five kids. They have so much potential:

George desperately wants a family. He is a sweet boy who has seen his friends get adopted and he enjoys practicing his English. As you can see from his picture, he has quite a lovely idea of what a home and family might be like. Let's help him find a family of his own.

Sherry is a shy girl with a sweet smile and demeanor. Please take a look at what a beautiful picture she drew. This may be her last chance to have a family due to her age.

Julia is intelligent, cute, polite and enthusiastic. She was born in 1996, so will age out of the system if she doesn't find a family to work quickly for her.

Skyler is quite the artist, drawing anime for his artwork. He's talented, speaks English, is 13 and is anxious to have a family. He is eager to succeed in life and with the right family he will:

Gina is a sweet and independent girl who is interested in learning. She is bright and a good student and likes to read, ride bikes and play sports. We have video of her reciting the ABC's in English.

Please help us find homes for these precious children! Even in tough economic times, children still need families. If each of you who views this blog tells 10 people about these children, the word will spread far and wide and perhaps we can find the right families. Thanks for all that you do!

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Still Waiting...

We are still having trouble finding families for many of the older children. Beautiful Jane, with her quiet poise, still does not have anyone looking at her file. Skyler, Clarke, Julia, Gina, Shirley, George, Gregory, Ruth, Felice and Sherry all don't have anyone considering them for adoption. These are all beautiful children who desperately want families of their own. Please help us continue to spread the word to find these precious children the families they deserve.
Thank you,